What Nigerians Truly Think About The Importance Of Sex In A Relationship

A lot of young people today think sex is synonymous to love. They engage in pre-marital sex in the name of showing their partner love without giving a thought to the complications that could arise from such act.

Nigerians express their opinion on the issue below;

Adetola Akinpelu: Sex should not be the basis of a relationship.. A lady must not consent to having sex with a man no matter what the attraction is. The moment a lady refuses to have indiscriminate sex with the man he will definitely respect her.

If a man loves a woman, he will wait for her no matter what he feels and how he feels about the lady. As far as I am concerned, sex should be the last thing.

Isiaka Adetunji: Sex is not for fun and it should not be seen and regarded as so. Sex should be for married couples and it should be reserved for the married alone. It is a sin to engage in pre-marital sex. All religion forbids it. We as young people should respect the word of God and fear God. Our bodies are God's temple and we should treat it as such.

Joshua Ogoigbe: Sex shouldn't be the reason or basis of a relationship. In fact, it should be the last thing on the relationship agenda. If sex comes first, I can assure you that the man will get tired of the lady in no time. It happens a lot of times. The man begins to look for excuses the moment he gets tired of the lady.

He then breaks up with the lady and she will eventually be the loser. Even if a man dictates that he wants sex as a proof of love, the lady must not agree. On the long run you will discover that it is not worth it, it is more of trouble than enjoyment.

Adisa Temitope: A man who truly loves his girlfriend and has good plans for her will not make sex a prerequisite for their relationship.

I believe they should get to know each other and be friends first. A relationship is more than sex. Even if pre-marital sex will come in, it should be after they had known each other well.

A relationship based on sex will crash as soon as the attraction which is sex weathers.

Abefe Femi: Sex shouldn't be the basis of a relationship. In the short run; while the guy uses the girl as a sex machine, the girl feels she is only using sex to please the guy. It also creates room for unprotected sex. The girl will always feel depressed after every sexual intercourse and there will be no trust especially if they live far away from each other. They feel jealous seeing their partner with an opposite sex and they will eventually break up. Also, the amazing part is, they seldom feel comfortable with each other whenever they meet again.

Ajetumobi Oluwatosin: Sometimes it is okay to make sex the bedrock of a relationship. A relationship does not have to be a lasting one at all times. It depends on what those in the relationship want. If sex is what they want from each other, there is no reason beating about the bush. It should be purely sex and nothing else and when they get tired of having sex with themselves, then they go their separate ways.

There is no point deceiving ourselves. Once we have defined the reason for the relationship, then there is no problem.

Michael Oludayo: The answer is no! Sex causes more damage than good in a relationship. I do not support it and will not advise anyone to go into a relationship and preach sex first.

Yomi Adebayo: Yes, why not. Sex makes the relationship more serious and meaningful. The partners will be able to determine where their relationship is headed. Sex strengthens the relationship.

Despite my opinion, everything depends on those involved in the relationship.

Oluwole Edward: No sex, no true love because through sex, you can express your feelings and show how much you love your partner.

Akindele Abiola: Men seek sex and women seek love. The two are the necessary pieces of the puzzle called survival of the fittest.

You would be better off if you understood what your partner wants and you are able to give him or her just that.

Ayodeji Damilola: We all know sex shouldn't be the basis of a true relationship. The truth is if a man always ask for sex, he doesn't really love you.

Most of the time, once he has satisfied his sexual urge, he leaves you for his next prey. Women should allow their sixth sense to be functional at all times and be careful.

Tolu Adeyanju: Sex before marriage is not good because it would destroy the foundation of a good marriage. Regret is the next portion because there is no guarantee for marriage between the partners.

Ebuka Joe: Sex or no sex, it depends on the people involved in the relationship.

Abodunrin Tunde: Sex means a lot in a relationship these days. If the partners really love each other, they can simply talk it out. I know of six years relationship without sex.

Folashade Yusuf: It shouldn't be a priority in a relationship, but civilisation has changed our culture and rubbed off our values. Do you know that virgins today hardly find a suitable partner? Sex is not meant for those who are not married, but for those who are married.